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Praise, Not Criticism Needed From Parents, Coaches and Trainers

Excessive Criticsm, Lack of Praise, Pressure To Win and On Appearance Can Lead to Eating Disorders

It is well-established that playing sports, particularly team sports, have positive effects on a child or adolescent's self-image and self-esteem.  Organized sports allow for participation in activities of cultural importance, achievement of goals, and recognition and respect from others for achievement of those goals.  Sports participation also provide experiences for youth athletes that help develop positive attitudes and behaviors.

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Sports participation emphasizes competitive success.  There are often social expectations and pressure to achieve and to win.  Likewise, those with eating disorders and body image disturbances are often subject to external pressures to achieve as well as pressures to appear a certain way.

Pressures to succeed can result in psychological symptoms that are characteristic of eating disorders. One 1999 study found that athletes who experience external pressure are more likely to exercise excessively and that such excessive exercise predicted increased levels of disordered eating patterns.  In addition, there may be pressure for athletes who must adhere to weight restrictions (e.g. wrestler) or measuring up to a certain body type (gymnasts, female figure skaters).   These issues are especially problematic for females.

In our research, we found that competitiveness was related to body dissatisfaction among female athletes, and that external pressures are related to symptoms of eating disorders. Furthermore, competitiveness among the female athletes we studied was related to body dissatisfaction.

Today's females receive mixed messages from society that recognize the importance of  participation in athletics and reward them for maintaining a fit body and having physical power, but at the same time perpetuate a cultural ideal valuing thinness, bust size, waist size, even the kind of makeup they wear and their hairstyles. Often, such a focus promotes femininity and body dissatisfaction. Indeed, studies indicate that females often will not play sports until they are thin enough to wear the right clothes. Some combine athletics with unhealthy measures to manage their weight (laxatives, vomiting, starvation).

Criticism may lead to eating disorders

  • Athletes who are subject to excessive criticism or are seldom praised may perceive themselves as not good enough or unworthy. External pressure may lead to self-critical thoughts, disordered eating, disordered exercise patterns, body dissatisfaction, and eating disorders.  In fact, a major obstacle to successfully treating people driven by harsh, unconstructive, or unattainable external standards is the person who criticizes and pressures them.
  • One study found, unfortunately, that some coaches view potential eating disorders symptoms such as excessive exercise, perfectionism, over-compliance, and competitiveness, as desirable.
  • Another study found that some parents view a strong desire to please others, namely themselves, as a healthy trait in their children.

Absence of praise: just as harmful

  • Children whose parents rarely approve or inconsistently approve of their accomplishments are more likely to obsess about perfection in order to assure that they receive parental approval. Therefore, the absence of praise may have as great an effect on disordered eating as does the presence of criticism.
  • Athletes whose parents expect them to perform at a high level may learn to do well in order just to receive more praise or avoid excessive criticism.
  • Individuals with symptoms of eating disorders are more likely to seek approval from others, even if such approval is unattainable or must be obtained through harmful means.
  • Because individuals with symptoms of eating disorders often strive for success in order to please others, they are more likely to worry about social acceptance, feel inadequate, spend time thinking about personal inadequacies, and be dependent on others.

External pressure to succeed linked to eating disorders

  • Athletes playing sports in less competitive environments and thus subject to less competitive pressure are less likely to have disturbed eating patterns and body dissatisfaction.
  • Pressure to compete with peers in terms of appearance has been linked to eating patterns in adolescents..
  • College females who compare themselves to peers or celebrities are more likely to experience increased body dissatisfaction, especially if their focus is on weight and body size.

Parents and coaches: criticize less and praise more

To reduce the chances that an athlete will engage in disordered eating or develop a full-blown eating disorder, parents, coaches and athletic trainers need to:

  • Reduce the amount of pressure on athletes to succeed or to appear attractive;
  • Help athletes avoid the mindset that they have to be the best at everything or appear the most attractive;
  • Offer athletes consistent praise so they know you approve of their accomplishments;
  • Avoid excessive criticism because it sends the message that you do not approve of them;
  • Help athletes to strive for goals set by internal standards rather than external sources.
  • Help athletes to experience satisfaction and approval from knowing that they have done a good job and tried their best. This is better than looking for and relying on external sources of approval;
  • Identify, if possible, what is driving a child's feelings of inadequacy;
  • Pay attention to the messages children see on television and in magazines, which are often unhealthy and unnatural and set standards that are impossible to obtain; and
  • Help athletes stay healthy by educating them about eating disorders, nutrition, and healthy eating habits.

Beverly L. Stiles is an associate professor of sociology at Midwestern State University where she focuses on  gender, social psychology, and medical sociology. She can be reached at Beverly.Stiles@mwsu.edu.  She is particularly interested in hearing from female athletes who have had problems with eating disorders. 

Adapted from Peden J, Stiles B, et. al. The Effects of External Pressures and Competitiveness on Characteristics of Eating Diorders and Body Dissatisfaction. J Sport Social Issues (2008).  To order a copy of the complete article, go to http://jmm.sagepub.com.  Dr. Stiles gratefuly acknowledges the contribution of Jamie D. Peden to this article.

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