Many factors contribute to being a successful athlete, including physical skill and good coaching. Yet the primary reason players succeed in sports is they have a love for the game. In his interviews with athletes around the world, Robert Nideffer, sports psychologist, has consistently found that it is not money or fan approval that motivates them to play long term. Rather, it is because they love how they feel when playing, a love for the game that allows them to continue playing through adversity.
Love is First Caught
Children develop a love of sports early, and in many ways. The love of the game is caught when a child:
Learns a sport's most basic skills
Is on the field with his friends
Begins to feel comfortable with her body and can see how hard work pays off with increased skills proficiency.
Organizing Youth Sports: Taking The Fun Out?
Playing games is natural for children. Soccer is a great example of a simple game that children can grasp at a young age and enjoy as they grow into their bodies and increase their skill level. The reality of modern American life, that children can't be left in playgrounds and parks without supervision, and that parents have limited free time, mean that children learn to play sports on organized teams, in organized leagues, with set schedules for games and practices, all of which tend to take the fun out of sports. The number one reason kids give for dropping out of sports - most at age 12 or 13 - is that it is no longer fun.
Adults Are Responsible
It is possible, however, to change the organized sports environment so that it fosters a love of the game instead of stifling it. Every group of adults is guilty of some part in this negative process.
Parents are notorious for putting pressure on their children to them perform better. Parents often try to live through their children and that they are having fun is not good enough. Winning is a must at all cost. It is well known that parents have been a negative influence on the sidelines of soccer games. When young players are embarrassed by their parents' behavior, they quickly lose the love of the game.
Coaches have a profound role in developing the love of the game. Coaches are responsible for teaching the technical and tactical part of the game. But if the coach does not also create a positive emotional environment, the love of game will be lost.
Referees are on the field to enforce the rules and create a positive atmosphere for the game of soccer to be played. The referee has significant power, as most calls are judgment calls. Referees have the power to significantly alter the tone of the game by the use of cards. A card can be used to help control the atmosphere of the game or it can make a bad situation worse. The voice tone of the ref will significantly determine the attitude the players bring to the field. When the referee is able to control the game, then it is fun, and players can enjoy and love the game even if their team loses.
Performance Anxiety Is The Culprit
No adult involved in American youth soccer scene deliberately sets out to destroy the love of the game for the players. Rather, they often get caught up in the anxiety of the moment and do not have the skills to handle the pressure and consequently act out or speak inappropriately. When referees, coaches and players are able to stay in the zone of optimal performance, then the atmosphere provides for a high level of enjoyable soccer. The love of the game is strengthened.
When education alone is used to try to improve the soccer culture it usually fails. In a classroom setting, adults easily verbalize an intellectual acceptance of the goals of a positive soccer culture. But on the field, as soon as the match pressure rises, adults will start to poison the soccer environment. If it remains unchecked, the negative contagion will be so great that disasters often take place on their pitch. Adults who did not go to the game to create a negative scene get caught in the performance anxiety of the game and lose their focus. Negative behavior follows and the environment is poisoned. No wonder that young people do not want to play in that kind of environment.
Iowa Youth Soccer Gets Involved
In Spring 2003, the Iowa Youth Soccer Association began a pilot program - one that I helped design - called "Performance Partners: Developing A Love Of The Game." It was implemented statewide in the fall of 2004. Performance Partners is designed to help all adults involved in youth soccer learn the performance skills necessary to contain the performance anxiety that can arise during any soccer game. When all adults are using these skills, a positive contagion is put into place and the environment stays positive. This allows the players' love of the game to continue to grow.
All adult referees, coaches and parents will benefit from this skill training. The soccer culture will be improved. Young players will develop and maintain a love of the game. When the intrinsic love of the game is nurtured, young athletes develop into stronger and more confident players. They can use the same performance skills to stay focused and not be caught by performance anxiety themselves. When adults do not feed the performance anxiety of the field then the player can utilize anxiety control and begin to believe they can perform under pressure.
Performance Improves In A Healthy Soccer Culture
The overall skill level in the America game will continue to increase as the soccer culture is improved. This improvement will start at the U-6 level and will continue all the way up the ladder to the U-19 level.
The success of the program will result in fewer yellow and red cards, fewer disagreements among parents, and a higher level of game performance and player satisfaction. It is a win-win situation when players play better, love the game and want to keep playing and improving their game. They are less likely to choke under pressure or experience burnout.
As all participants (adult and youth) learn to perform better under pressure, the American soccer game will continue to improve and meet the many goals that have been set to improve the level of American soccer. When adults learn to contain their performance anxiety, young players will develop many skills including developing a love of the game.